Body After Babies :: Brave & Unapologetic


There’s no need to be afraid. There’s no need to be bashful. That’s what I tell myself.

What I’m wearing in the photo is no more revealing than a bathing suit at the beach, except my midriff is exposed. The stretch marks on my stomach were non-existent to minimal after my first two pregnancies, but more obvious after my third.

Age 33  ::  3 pregnancies  ::  1 boy & 1 girl  ::  "Mommy, why is your belly so squishy?  Because you and your sister lived in there for 9 months each!"
Age 33 :: 3 pregnancies :: 1 boy & 1 girl :: “Mommy, why is your belly so squishy? Because you and your sister each lived there for 9 months!”

“Why is your belly so squishy? Why is it big?” my 3 year old asks.

“Because you and your sister each lived there for 9 months.” I respond, trying to sound neutral through my initial shock and embarrassment at the questions.

What do preschoolers know about body image? He is not judging me I remind myself. He will know what I teach him. I am a new era woman. I won’t feel bad because I don’t, and can’t, look like a Photoshopped media image. I won’t join a fad diet to drop pounds only to put on even more when my will power wanes. 

I have known far too many women with eating disorders, unhealthy obsessions with their physical size and dieting, paralyzed and tormented by their own negative body image. I refuse to be one of them. I hope you can too.

I don’t want my daughter to feel bad about her body. I don’t want her or my son to have warped expectations of female beauty. I will love my body so my kids can do the same for themselves. I will keep any body criticisms I may feel at times to myself, and not let them compromise my overall happiness.

Would I like to get more healthy and fit? Sure. It’s ok to want positive change. I haven’t figured out to do it in a way that is compatible with family life yet, but I will not starve myself or make myself crazy. I also will not apologize for the scars and curves acquired by successfully growing a new life twice.

I am the mother of two beautiful children. I am brave. I am unapologetic. I am an authentic woman. 


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I am stay at home mom to two wonderful kids. I grew up in Vermont, but it wasn't until I left this great state for a few years that I truly appreciated what a wonderful place it is. My husband is also a Vermonter, so we are happy to be able to raise our kids here surrounded by a large extended family. In fact, we like it so much that we bought the house next door to his parents, and my mom lives in an apartment on our property. We enjoy playing outdoors and poking around our little "gentleman's farm" that we started in 2010. We have chickens, goats, a work-in-progress vegetable garden, fruit trees, and we tap our own maple trees for syrup. I have a BA in environmental studies and an MA in urban planning. I try to keep a toe in the professional world that I left when my oldest was born by serving on our local Planning Commission. You can learn more about me and my passion for this planet we call home on my blog: Mama of Ma'at



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